Handling different kids with different quirks and attitude is gonna be difficult. But can you imagine how teachers are able to do this? Here are some tricks you can adapt, that study says, work really well for teachers in a class.
1. Using their name to call attention. When they’re misbehaving or forgetting to listen to your pleas, you can call out to them by using their name. “Ben, fix your toys.” or “Sally, finish your food.” This works better than mindlessly barking out orders. Kids are likely to tune out when you do that.
2. Have a sit down with them. When kids misbehave at school, the teacher usually comes to the child and sits by the child’s desk. She is on eye-level and this, experts say, has an effect on the child. By talking to them this way, makes them feel less scared and are more likely to listen.
3. Change their task. Sometimes, kids bicker out of wanting to do what the other one is doing, because it may seem a lot of fun, compared to the task given to him. Routines like this may not work for some kids, so it’s probably best to rotate tasks that are assigned to them at home. This way, they also get to share in the workload with the other siblings, in a way that they won’t feel it’s unfair.
4. Let them decide on the rules and its consequences and this is not about giving them power, but rather, making them responsible for their actions.
There is a stage in a child’s development where he would seem to be saying no to everything you ask. They become uncooperative and some would even resort to tantrums. Asking children to cooperate can be tricky, because parents may end up bribing the kids into doing what must be done, without really teaching them any value or lesson.
So what can parents do?
Often, kids respond well when asked to do a task that is fun. Be creative and devise the task into something like a game so that the child will not see this so much as a chore. It can be as simple as racing who gets to clean up their room faster.
When they throw a little tantrum, don’t also be throwing a tantrum yourself, as the parent. Listen to their feelings first to know where this is coming from. Bear in mind that children act out because they need to be heard. So, hear them out.
Don’t forget to complement your child for things he does. This will encourage the child to do the same behavior, if you positively respond to it as well.
Give them choices. At least with giving choices, you let them feel that they too can make decisions. If you’re cleaning the room together, for instance, you can ask their opinion about where his towels or jackets must be placed. Little things like this can boost his self-esteem and he will eventually develop better attitude.
Preschoolers may know the rules of fair play, but learning to share can still be a major challenge.
Wouldn’t it be great if your hear your child saying to his friend “Sure, you can play with my favorite robot anytime” well according to the studies of Child development, 3 -4 year olds tend to cling passionately to their possessions. They are so focused on their wants and needs that sharing just isn’t their priority.
Even though kids at this age are usually having a hard time sharing, they can be surprisingly generous when adults encourage them to do so. Here are some steps you can take to help the process along:
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