At one time or another, almost every child takes something that’s not hers – whether it’s mom’s lipstick, a toy from a friend’s house, or a lollipop at the store. This will surely distressed the parents when this happens. But parents must know that their children (ages 4-5) usually get something because they have trouble of controlling their impulses. Even if they know that stealing is wrong, they won’t be able to control themselves especially if the object is colorful and attractive.
Parents must learn how to handle this kind of situation. They must try not to overreact and humiliate their child. Instead, they must use this situation as a valuable learning opportunity. Here are some helpful strategies:
- Talk about what your child wants and other ways to get it- For example, your child can put the coveted item on her birthday or Christmas wish list. She can do extra chores to get some money to buy the toy that she wants.
- Look for similar items at home – If your child tries to steal a doll from the store, point out how many dolls she already has. If she takes a pack of chocolates, remind her that you just made colorful chocolates two nights ago, and she can get as many she wants on the table.
- Be creative- try using your own experience and tell your child the consequences of doing that. Don’t make her feel that she’s a bad person; just let her realize that what she did was wrong and that you still love her.
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